A friend came over to my house the other night to try some clothes I had cleaned out from my closet. As she sifted through the piles, she'd pull out a shirt or a sweater and say, "I love this but I don't think I could pull it off. Do you think I could?"
I told her I thought, with a bit of confidence, she could pull off whatever she loved.
I think we, women in particular, have a tendency to box ourselves in. We think there are styles we can't wear, words we can't speak, dreams we can't chase down because we are not _______ enough. Smart enough. Pretty enough. Skinny enough. Talented enough. So we wait for that ever elusive day in the future when we will finally be enough. But that day rarely comes.
When I started my job seven years ago, I never would have imagined that I would be in the position I am now in. I was younger than everyone else and less experienced. And each step of the way, each increase in responsibility, each new task, I've fought against it, always with the protest, "But I'm too young. I'm not experienced enough yet."
But I've been incredibly lucky. There are many very talented women in my workplace. Women who saw something in me that I simply couldn't seen in myself. Women who have encouraged me and mentored me and helped me to see that I am enough. So each of my protests have been met with equal encouragements. With their support, I have grown and learned and come to believe that I am enough.
With the support of these strong and confident women, I have become strong and confident myself.
We must remind one another that we are enough. That our dreams are possible. That we have within us everything we need to make those dreams happen. We must support each other, encourage each other and appreciate each other.
So share with me, no? How have you been supported by other women? And how are you supporting other women?