Enough.

A friend came over to my house the other night to try some clothes I had cleaned out from my closet. As she sifted through the piles, she'd pull out a shirt or a sweater and say, "I love this but I don't think I could pull it off. Do you think I could?"

I told her I thought, with a bit of confidence, she could pull off whatever she loved.

I think we, women in particular, have a tendency to box ourselves in. We think there are styles we can't wear, words we can't speak, dreams we can't chase down because we are not _______ enough. Smart enough. Pretty enough. Skinny enough. Talented enough. So we wait for that ever elusive day in the future when we will finally be enough. But that day rarely comes.

When I started my job seven years ago, I never would have imagined that I would be in the position I am now in. I was younger than everyone else and less experienced. And each step of the way, each increase in responsibility, each new task, I've fought against it, always with the protest, "But I'm too young. I'm not experienced enough yet." 

But I've been incredibly lucky. There are many very talented women in my workplace. Women who saw something in me that I simply couldn't seen in myself. Women who have encouraged me and mentored me and helped me to see that I am enough. So each of my protests have been met with equal encouragements. With their support, I have grown and learned and come to believe that I am enough.



With the support of these strong and confident women, I have become strong and confident myself. 

We must remind one another that we are enough. That our dreams are possible. That we have within us everything we need to make those dreams happen. We must support each other, encourage each other and appreciate each other. 

So share with me, no? How have you been supported by other women? And how are you supporting other women?

6 comments:

  1. Love that quote! I have a very strong, supportive mother AND mother-in-law in my life and am very lucky for it. Women def. have a tendency to tear each other down, and also have a tendency to be competitive. Competition is good - to a point, but not when we kills ourselves or each other over it.

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    1. Yes, yes, yes! I have been so fortunate to have experienced that myself and now feel strongly about providing that opportunity to others. I think because of how I have been mentored, I will definitely be looking out for who I could mentor in the future.

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  2. Are you kidding?? YOU! And the plethora of other women who have literally picked up my lost and hopeless soul over the past three years. If it hadn't been for the strength of other women, I would still be roadkill...

    Your blog looks mah-velous. You've come a long way and it has been a joy to watch you and your voice grow...

    xoxo

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  3. I was just talking about this with a group of fellow mama friends...we need, mamas or not, as women to work on being together and supporting each other, not tearing each other down. It is easy to judge, but in the end, we're all in this together. Thanks for your post!

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  4. Wow! This is an awesome post.. not too sure how I completely missed it. I'm so glad that I started blogging a couple of months ago because the support has been like no other. I have made friends and know that I have a space that I can speak about ANYTHING. I'm still kind of stuck in the career aspects when it comes to I'm not ___ enough. I'm getting there though. Glad you overcame whatever it was holding you back!

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  5. I have to echo the above sentiment in that blogging is definitely one of the most overwhelming sources of support that I've found. It's an amazing feeling to feel like you can share your hopes, fears, failures, successes and that people will try to relate to them or help you through them.

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