A mix of emotions.

Baby Emily at Boston College circa 2006. Sigh. (And yes, the doubled popped polo was a halloween costume.)

I don't have much to say today, due much to the conflicting emotions tossing around inside of me. Having gone to school in Boston and being from New England. the tragedy in Boston weighs heavy on my heart. Those first few moments when I heard what had happened left me scouring Facebook and sending texts to be sure that my friends still living in Boston were okay. In moments of crisis, I'm incredibly thankful to social media for the ability to quickly ascertain information. I set aside my phone, went back to teaching my afterschool kids because teaching never waits and then went home where I watched TV for as long as I could stand to. It's difficult to imagine that something like this could happen in a place that was once home and that will always hold a piece of my heart. I have plans to spend a few days back in Boston this summer and cannot wait to step foot back in the city that helped shaped so much of who I've become. I am proud of my years in Boston and am encouraged by the bright, strong and resilient spirit of Boston, and really all of New England. 

On the other end of the emotional spectrum is this bit of hope I feel over immigration reform. I know enough to know not to go running through the streets shouting, "It's coming! It's coming!" because it's coming is not inevitable. A proposed bill does not always a law become. So it is with cautious optimism that I approach these next few months of immigration arguments, debates, revisions, amendments, etc. But the very presence of optimism, even in the slightest amount, is itself encouraging. I hope for freedom, justice, compassion and love to prevail. 

If you are not currently following immigration news, I'd encourage you to do so. And if you're not sure how you feel about it all, ask questions. Get to know people. Hear their stories. Find out why this means so much to so many. This could be an absolute life changer for so many people I know and care about. (If you'd like to know more about my thoughts on immigration, you can find other writings by me hereherehere, and here.) For those of you in favor of extending compassion to our immigrant neighbors, please prepare yourselves to advocate for them. It will be a long fight, I am sure.

And one last note: as I sifted through Facebook status updates in search of any news on friends in Boston and there whereabouts, I could not help but feel slightly put off by the blog publicity and giveaways and what-have-yous that continued to accumulate in my feed. While we all may react differently to such events and while we are each entitled to live however we please, a bit of social media silence during these difficult times is always appreciated, particularly in cases where cell phone calls aren't possible. Compassion never goes unappreciated and contributes greatly to the sense of humanity of your blog/brand. 

I like to think of social media as an incredibly crowded auditorium in which each person is yelling their updates/tweets/etc. If you wouldn't yell "Come see me on such and such site" or "Get in your entry for this giveaway!"  in a crowded room while others are yelling "Has anyone heard from _____?? Is she okay?" then you might consider refraining from doing so on social media. Just my thoughts.


  1. I hope all your friends made it through safely!!!
    I too was put off with all the giveaway come read my post ect ect status updates that were going on yesterday. Which is why I didn't Facebook or tweet anything that was blog related. It didn't matter if people read my post or not. What mattered is finding out if our friends & family in New England were safe. People forget that just because it might not directly have happened to them it still affects other people around them.
    Awesome post :)

  2. I share your cautious enthusiasm over potential immigration reform! Yay! And I can definitely understand the mixed emotions on a day with so many different types of dramatic things happening. I hope your friends and loved ones are safe. We'll wait together to see how both of these scenarios play out...

  3. Having grown up in New England (New Hampshire), what happened in Boston weighed pretty heavily on my heart, too. I didn't spent a lot of time there until I was an adult (my mom was very much convinced that Boston was an evil place to be avoided so I probably went there all of 5 times growing up), but I grew up watching the Marathon and in the last couple of years before I moved to NYC I spent a lot of time down there and made some really fantastic friends.

    I totally hear you with your disgust regarding blog and giveaway promotion during the tragedy. I think a lot of people don't realize that social media, especially Twitter, gets heavily utilized to pass along critical information during an emergency like this one... It's proper etiquette to cancel per-scheduled tweets and refrain from saying anything self-promotional until it looks like things are pretty well over.


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